perception

perception is reality

i vounteered at the teen center to help teens prepare for job searches/interview.  We were having a conversation about a time you went somewhere and had bad service.  One of the bright young men told me the time that he went to a restaraunt and the waitress was too busy texting to get their drink orders.  There is no excuse for bad service but we always get ideas in our heads that are sometimes incorrect.  So i asked if he would have felt different about the experience if he had known that she was texting her mother, who was in the hospital and was very ill.  I saw the paradigm shift in this young man's head and his perception of this experience changed his reality. 

Hopefully, the next time he thinks that he is perceiving something one way he will give the accused a chance to explain before determining his reality.