closure

"a LOT of people are still being held captive to past relationships because they are still in search of closure.  If someone proves they didn't love you, mistreated you and wasn't there when you needed them WHY would you have to know why they did it to move on?" A grown man's thoughts

this is so me and this is probably what is causing this continuous thought pattern that I am having.  This is why I am in therapy.  Even if I knew the why, it still doesn't change the way that it made me feel.  I am a fixer, this is my reasoning for knowing the "why".  I am having to learn that I am not responsible for fixing everyone and everything.  I am really only responsible for me and my animals.